Raising Independent Children

Raising Independent Children

Are you a helicopter parent? Merriam-Webster defines the term as one who is overly involved in the life of his or her child.  Does this describe your parenting style?  Maybe you’re more of a “Lawnmower Parent,” accused of moving everything out of the way to make a clear and easy path for your children. 

When asked, most parents would agree that their goal is to raise independent children. We know the path to independence is the practice of independence, yet we have kept the reins so tight that we have earned ourselves the monikers cited above. Both parenting styles are potentially damaging to the child that can’t grasp his independence because his guidance is a chopper 400 ft above his head or a John Deere clearing the path of obstacles before him.  He may struggle to develop the confidence of being able to do things on his own. As we continue to celebrate the Independence of America, let’s turn your attention to the next generation to lead America.  How have we prepared them? 

In a scene from the movie “Black Panther,” T’Chaka (the Black Panther’s father) said to his son: “A man who has not prepared his children for his own death has failed as a father. Have I ever failed you?” That was a good one! This is one of those blogs where I don’t profess to have the answer.  I am still in Research & Development, quite honestly.  I am calling on the community to tell us what you are doing and/or how did you do it?  Please share!  The rest of us – get your pens out.  Let’s make notes!

Dr. Lisa

PS: Our theme song is “Can’t Let Go” by Jonathan Butler.


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